A Shrink 4 men makes us feel the emotions of men victimized by spouses and by the law de-program our mind that has been warped by decades of incessant feminist brainwashing. Powerfully written by a female psychotherapist specialized in healing men’s wounds. Priceless.
I want to help men (and women) break free of the female-dominated pop psychology stranglehold of the last 30 years that’s confused both men and women and caused untold relationship damage. About Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
Shrink4men, a site by by a female psychotherapist helps to deprogram men (and women). Somehow we all have been brainwashed into excusing female on male violence as funny, inconsequential and excusable. In every single Hollywood film, a woman slaps a man in the face, throws dangerous household items at him. Female violence, is just socially acceptable. Female murder is being excused and (almost) socially acceptable. Female verbal, behavioral and emotional abuse is totally acceptable and never gets punished, neither by law nor even by social disapproval. Constant verbal and emotional abuse is creating a dangerously stressful environment for the husband victim, and of course, for the children.
We were surprised to recognize character traits of former girlfriends of ours in Why Some High-Conflict Personality Women Kill. Societal brainwashing is so strong that even we were unaware of the deep injustice and emotional violence we had been victimized by.
Reading this and some other random articles from shrink4men, you will recognize and understand the psychology of the trend to victimization of criminals in sensational trials, culminating in Lorena Bobbit demanding and getting an excuse for having caused her to cut off her husband’s penis?
Thank God, most women do not to the point of killing, but many, many women share the initial phases where they justify female against male abuse, and they managed to convince men, law makers, police and judges that their emotional abuse is justified. And any reaction of men against this abuse has become criminalized. Shrink4men shows real male suffering, making the abuse tangible and understandable.
Why some HCPs [High-Conflict-Personalities] slide down the slippery slope of emotional abuse to violence and murder:
1. HCPs are always right. No matter how egregiously vindictive and destructive her behavior, an HCP believes she’s right. She’s always right. If she trashes you to the kids, destroys your property, tries to get you fired and/or badmouths you with outrageous lies to anyone who will listen—you deserve it. In her warped mind, she probably sees herself as delivering some kind of twisted vigilante justice when she harms, smears, bullies and attacks others. You wronged her (probably just in her own mind), so you must pay. (Source: Why Some High-Conflict Personality Women Kill)
Can you recognize that these basic traits are in many women, and women can play them out without getting corrected by anyone. Her girl friends reinforce her behavior. Many feminists thrive on vengeful behavior. Law enforcement does not criminalize such behavior, it does not even protect men with restraining orders or separation help. Law enforcement only jails the man if he snaps after such abuse and reacts with violence.
2. No empathy or selective empathy. This allows the HCP to hurt others without batting an eye. She doesn’t seem to feel remorse for hurting people she’s splitting black (a person she sees as all bad), unless she’s confronted with her bad behavior by someone whom she wants to think well of her, then she feigns remorse. In which case, she’s remorseful about getting caught; not about whatever abusive, inappropriate or criminal thing she’s done.
Additionally, any admission of wrong-doing or remorse is usually followed with a BUT . . . (insert reason why her bad behavior is really someone else’s fault—usually the victim’s). This individual typically only has empathy for her own pain and for people whom she’s currently splitting white (a person she sees as all good).
3. It’s never her fault. It’s always someone else’s fault. As previously noted, the person she’s been victimizing typically gets blamed. “Yeah, I punched him, but his stupid nose got in the way of my fist, so it’s his own damned fault.” It’s not a stretch to see how someone like this could just as easily justify homicide.
“He was exposing MY children to his new whore and I’d rather MY children be with God.” Or, “He broke my heart. He made promises to me. He swore to be with me until death us do part. Now he knows how it feels. He deserved it.” Or, “I killed his children to punish him.” To this day, former socialite stay-at-home-mom Betty Broderick still feels no remorse for killing her ex-husband, Dan Broderick, and his second wife, Linda Kolkena, and blames her victims for their own murders despite the fact Betty broke into the couples’ home and shot them repeatedly while they slept. (Source: Why Some High-Conflict Personality Women Kill)
These links are worth repeating:
- Female murder is being excused and (almost) socially acceptable.
- Lorena Bobbit demanding and getting an excuse for having caused her to cut off her husband’s penis?
- victimization of criminals in sensational trials (the Menezes brothers are a rare example where men killers were excused as “victims”
6. Knowing the difference between right and wrong or “The rules don’t apply to me.” Many HCPs don’t seem to know the difference between right and wrong. Well, they believe they’re always right and everyone else is wrong, but it’s not really the same thing, is it? Many HCPs can judge the behavior of others to be right or wrong or immoral, but they don’t appear to be able to do the same with their own behavior. For example, “It was wrong for Joe to cheat on his wife because all men are lying, cheating scum, but I had my reasons for cheating on my husband. It’s my husband’s fault I cheated on him.”
Human-Stupidity Analysis
To overcome the profound unconscious brainwashing by decades of feminist literature, movies, laws, it is good to read at least half a dozen of the articles in Shrink4men. The articles are written in the same emotional tone feminists write. Shrink4men may be the one blog that can de-program avid feminists.
It helps to emotionally understand and feel the suffering and injustice inflicted on men, and on children (Parental Alienation). Just reading the topic already helps to de-program your mind.
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At the risk of alienating most readers, we feel compelled to state:Societal insensitivity towards the suffering of men jailed and jail raped for 20 years for mere possession of pictures and movies, or for fondling or consensual sex with adolescents is a further consequence of the brainwashing described by shrink4men
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Shrink4Men is exactly what Human-Stupidity.com is about: profound de-programming of deeply unconscious beliefs, Human Stupidity: irrational brainwashed dogmatism in otherwise intelligent people. This is why I took the unusual liberty to copy the entire index.
Shrink4Men Index
November 2010
- How to Get Over an Abusive Girlfriend or Wife: Break the Routines (November 16, 2010)
- High-Conflict Phases of Abuse, Blame Shifting, Distortion, Rage and Manipulation Diagram (November 15, 2010)
- Why Some High-Conflict Personality Women Kill (November 10, 2010)
- Parental Alienation: Navigating the Court System, Part 1 (November 9, 2010)
- How to Get Over an Abusive Girlfriend: Write About It (November 8, 2010)
- “Funny” Divorce Cakes (November 5, 2010)
- Interview with New Shrink4Men Contributor and Abusive Girlfriend Survivor: Kev (November 4, 2010)
- Theresa Riggi Kills Her Children in Bitter Divorce Battle: Does She Have a Personality Disorder? (November 3, 2010)
- Parental Alienation: Programming and Brainwashing (November 2, 2010)
October 2010
- Leaving an Abusive Wife: Pre-Divorce Checklist (October 27, 2010)
- Can Men Be Abused by Women? (October 27, 2010)
- Interview with New Shrink4Men Contributor, Part 2: Natalie Malonis Family Law and High-Conflict Divorce Attorney (October 22, 2010)
- Interview with New Shrink4Men Contributor, Part 1: Natalie Malonis Family Law and High-Conflict Divorce Attorney (October 21, 2010)
- Teen Mom’s Amber Portwood Under Investigation for Domestic Violence After Physically Abusing Fiance on Television (October 20, 2010)
- Blame and Rage: What Abusive Women Call Problem-Solving (October 19, 2010)
There is a little confusion, as there are 2 sites, the new version shrink4men.com above and the old version shrink4men.wordpress.com indexed below. Both are extremely valuable.
September 2010
- False Allegations, False Memories and False Remorse: Meredith Maran (September 23, 2010)
- Why Narcissism and Other High-Conflict Personalities Are on the Rise (September 20, 2010)
- The Ego Epidemic: Narcissism Is on the Rise (September 14, 2010)
- Introduction to the Men’s Movement: An Interview with Paul Elam (September 10, 2010)
August 2010
- Divorce and High-Conflict People: Borderlines, Narcissists, Histrionics, Sociopaths and Other Persuasive Blamers (August 31, 2010)
- News Item: Long Island Narcissist Hires Discount Hitman to Kill Her Husband During Divorce (August 18, 2010)
July 2010
- Reaction to Women Abusing Men in Public (July 29, 2010)
- Letter from an Adult Child of Cluster B Personality Disorder Parents: The Damage Done (July 26, 2010)
- Extreme No Contact: Delete Your Ex from the Internet! (July 19, 2010)
June 2010
May 2010
- Can an Abusive Borderline Personality Disorder Woman Really Change? (May 31, 2010)
- How Do I Get My Crazy, Abusive Girlfriend Out of My House and My Life? (May 4, 2010)
April 2010
- How Do I Divorce My Abusive Wife? (April 26, 2010)
- No Contact Includes Not Keeping Tabs on your Ex Via Facebook, Twitter, Blogs or MySpace (April 9, 2010)
March 2010
- Abusive Women, Cults, Brainwashing and Deprogramming, Part II (March 17, 2010)
- Abusive Women, Cults, Brainwashing and Deprogramming, Part I (March 12, 2010)
February 2010
- How Abusive Women Brainwash You (February 24, 2010)
- An Anthem for the Husbands and Boyfriends of Narcissistic, Borderline and Histrionic Women: Mr Guilty by Loudon Wainwright, III (February 11, 2010)
- Superbowl 2010 Commercials: Are Advertisers Trying to Tell Men Something? (February 8, 2010)
- What to Do When your Abusive Ex-Wife or Ex-Girlfriend Tries to Maintain Contact with your Family and Friends After the Divorce or Break-Up (February 2, 2010)
January 2010
- Just for Fun: The Best Safe Sex PSA Ever (January 29, 2010)
- Social Media Platforms, Narcissists, Borderlines and Histrionics: The Lure of Blogs, Facebook and MySpace (January 26, 2010)
- More on Emotional Detachment: Surviving an Ongoing Abusive Relationship (January 20, 2010)
- Bad Relationships: Change Your Role and the Rules of Engagement (January 15, 2010)
- Shrink4Men One Year Anniversary and the Year Ahead (January 12, 2010)
- Just for Fun Video: The Sad Truth About Relationships (January 9, 2010)
- Healthy Self-Love: The Foundation of Good Relationships (January 4, 2010)
December 2009
- An Unconventional Approach to Surviving the Holidays if You’re Recently Single (December 2, 2009)
- Emotional Detachment: When the No Contact Rule Is Not an Option (December 9, 2009)
- Top 10 Holiday Gifts for the Narcissist in your Life (December 10, 2009)
- You Are Not a Princess! 25 Points for Women and Men to Consider (December 15, 2009)
- Merry Christmas from Shrink4Men (December 25, 2009)
- The Shrink4Men Forum is Here (December 26, 2009)
November 2009
- WSJ: The New Art of Alimony (November 1, 2009)
- Dating Street Smarts: How to Spot Emotional Predators and Con Artists (November 4, 2009)
- The No Contact Rule: Ending an Abusive Relationship (November 12, 2009)
- Emails from a Crazy Girlfriend: Drama in a Vacuum (November 14, 2009)
- The No Contact Rule: Committing to It and Making It Work (November 19, 2009)
October 2009
- NARC’D! Encounter with a Female Narcissist (October 5, 2009)
- Just for Fun: 10 Things Men Know about Women (October 11, 2009)
- How to Find a Good Therapist If You Are Involved with an Emotionally Abusive Woman (October, 14, 2009)
- Burger Queen 911 Call: Narcissist Wants to Have It Her Way (October 18, 2009)
- Updated Special Offer: My Virtual Shrink (October 26, 2009)
- 8 Red Flag Dating Phrases that Should Send You Running (October 28, 2009)
- Just for Fun: Female Defense Mechanism Radio Control (October 31, 2009)
September 2009
- Will My Emotionally Abusive Girlfriend or Wife Be Different With the New Guy? (September 7, 2009)
- Just for Fun: How a Man’s Brain and a Woman’s Brain Work During an Argument (September 12, 2009)
- 10 Reasons You Can’t Communicate with a Narcissistic or Borderline Woman (September 17, 2009)
- Emotional Vampires: How Emotionally Abusive Women Screw You Up Flow Chart (September 27, 2009)
- Why Couples Counseling Rarely Works with Narcissistic and Borderline Women (September 28, 2009)
August 2009
- What Makes Your Control Freak Wife or Girlfriend Tick (August 3, 2009)
- 10 Lies Men Tell Themselves In Order to Stay in Emotionally Abusive Relationships with their Wives or Girlfriends (August 10, 2009)
- Cosmopolitan Magazine: Sometimes the Truth Hurts (August 13, 2009)
- 10 Things You Need to Do After Breaking Up with an Emotionally Abusive Woman (August 14, 2009)
- Sex and Control: How Men Get Screwed by Emotionally Abusive Women (August 17, 2009)
- What Can I Do to Protect My Unborn Child from My BPD-NPD Ex-Girlfriend (August 24, 2009)
- Divorce and Break-Ups: There Is No Closure with a Narcissistic or Borderline Woman (August 28, 2009)
July 2009
- Are You Stuck in an Unhealthy Relationship Pattern? Part Three (July 10, 2009)
- Breaking Up with an Emotionally Abusive Woman Video and Suicide Threats (July 14, 2009)
- 5 Stages of Letting Go of a Relationship with an Emotionally Abusive Woman (July 20, 2009)
- How Emotionally Abusive Women Control You: The Fear of Loss and the Need for Approval (July 27, 2009)
June 2009
- Coping Strategies for Dealing with a Narcissistic or Borderline Woman (June 1, 2009)
- 5 More Coping Strategies for Dealing with a Narcissistic or Borderline Woman (June 11, 2009)
- Are You Stuck in an Unhealthy Relationship Pattern? Part One (June 17, 2009)
- Another 5 Coping Strategies for Dealing with a Narcissistic or Borderline Woman (June 18, 2009)
- Request for Help: What Advice Do You Have for a Father Whose Son is about to Marry an Emotionally Abusive, Controlling Possibly BPD/NPD Woman? (June 18, 2009)
- 10 Warning Signs You’re Dating or Married to a Female Mahmoud Ahmadinejad (June 20, 2009)
- Happy Father’s Day (June 21, 2009)
- Are You Stuck in an Unhealthy Relationship Pattern? Part Two (June 23, 2009)
- Animated Video: Narcissistic-Borderline Wife Verbally Abusing Husband Courtesy of Xtranormal.com (June 24, 2009)
- Animated Video: Narcissistic Wife Yelling at Husband (June, 25, 2009)
- Coping Strategies 16-20 for Dealing with a Narcissistic or Borderline Woman (June 29, 2009)
May 2009
- How to Have a Healthy Relationship After Being With an Emotionally Abusive, Borderline or Narcissistic Woman (May 1, 2009)
- Am I in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship with a Narcissistic or Borderline Woman (May 6, 2009)
- Is It My Fault that My Borderline Girlfriend and I Broke Up? (May 14, 2009)
- 5 Ways to Avoid Becoming Involved with Another Crazy, Emotionally Abusive, Borderline or Narcissistic Woman (May 20, 2009)
- Is Being a Stay-at-Home Mom Fair to your Husband? (May 28, 2009)
April 2009
- Traumatic Love: Is Your Narcissistic or Borderline Wife or Girlfriend Making You Sick? (April 1, 2009)
- 25 Signs your Narcissistic or Borderline Wife or Girlfriend is Traumatizing You (April 2, 2009)
- Can a Relationship with a Narcissistic or Borderline Wife or Girlfriend Change your Personality? (April 8, 2009)
- Is a Borderline or Narcissist Woman’s Emotionally Abusive Behavior Premeditated? (April 13, 2009)
- Lindsay Lohan’s eHarmony Profile: If Only All Crazy Women Were This Honest (April 14, 2009)
- Can a Man Break the Cycle of Emotional Abuse After Being With a Crazy, Narcissistic or Borderline Wife or Girlfriend? (April 20, 2009)
- Can a Man Who Was Emotionally Abused By His Narcissistic or Borderline Wife or Girlfriend Have a Relationship with a Healthy Woman? (April 27, 2009)
March 2009
- Bill Maher, the Snuggie, Extenze and the American Psyche (March 2, 2009)
- Parental Alienation: Why Kids Usually Side with the Custodial Parent Especially If They’re Emotionally Abusive (March 6, 2009)
- The Secret to Happy, Long Lasting Relationships (March 9, 2009)
- Financial Fraud by Wall Street and Mortgage Lenders: Ignorance and Stupidity Are No Excuse (March 12, 2009)
- Workplace Bullying and Office Politics: What is Mobbing? (March 16, 2009)
- How to Avoid Bullying and Mobbing at Work (March 18, 2009)
- What to Do If You’re the Target of Bullying at Work (March 18, 2009)
February 2009
- How to Recognize 7 Personality Types in Office Politics (February 2, 2009)
- 5 Men to Avoid on Valentine’s Day: Don’t Be This Guy (February 3, 2009)
- 5 Women to Avoid on Valentine’s Day: Don’t Be This Lady (February 3, 2009)
- 6 More Office Politics Personality Types: Bullies in the Workplace (February 4, 2009)
- A Funny, But Honest Valentine’s Day Card (February 5, 2009)
- 15 Warning Signs She’s a Psycho Chick (February 6, 2009)
- 6 Signs Not to Propose to your Girlfriend on Valentine’s Day (February 6, 2009)
- More Funny Valentine’s Day Cards (February 7, 2009)
- 2 Reasons Why Valentine’s Day Gifts Cause Relationship Problems (February 9, 2009)
- 10 Gifts NOT to Give on Valentine’s Day (February 10, 2009)
- Emotional Abuse and Bullies: If You Don’t Like What You See When You Look in the Mirror, Don’t Blame the Mirror (February 12, 2009)
- The Emotionally Abusive Personality: Is She a Borderline or a Narcissist? (February 14, 2009)
- 7 Things You Need to Know About Emotional Abuse and Bullies (February 16, 2009)
- Why Men Are Attracted to Crazy, Emotionally Abusive Women (February 17, 2009)
- The Emotionally Abusive Woman: You Can’t Reason with a Crazy Person (February 18, 2009)
- Ending a Painful Relationship and Starting Over (February 19, 2009)
- How to Make Changes in your Relationship and Life (February 24, 2009)
- Why Parental Alienation is the Act of an Emotionally Abusive Bully (February 25, 2009)
- 3 Dating Tips for Having a Healthy and Successful Relationships (February 27, 2009)
January 2009
- Is She a Crazy Bitch? A Quiz (January 12, 2009)
- How to Deal with a Borderline Woman (January 13, 2009)
- Men Have Emotions, But Women Don’t Listen (January 14, 2009)
- Why your Wife’s Excuses for Not Working Are Lame (January 15, 2009)
- The Real Reason your Wife Doesn’t Want to Work (January 16, 2009)
- Are You My Soul Mate? Defining the One (January 19, 2009)
- 12 Signs You Should Break Up with your Boyfriend or Girlfriend or Spouse (January 20, 2009)
- 13 Signs your Girlfriend or Wife is a Borderline or a Narcissist (January 21, 2009)
- When Love Hurts: The Emotionally Abused Man (January 23, 2009)
- Relationship Roller Coaster Ride: The Cycle of Abuse (January 24, 2009)
- Why We Stay in Bad Relationships (January 26, 2009)
- Is Your Girlfriend or Wife a Professional Victim (January 27, 2009)
- I Ain’t Saying She’s a Gold Digger: Entitled Wall Street Wives Bail on their Husbands (January 28, 2009)
- 10 Signs your Girlfriend or Wife is an Emotional Bully (January 30, 2009)
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Shrink4Men Index
Well. I do believe abuse came first from the man. And my ex needs to put his name at the beginning of all these articles. I’m not a liar abusive bully. He beat the fuck out of me years ago and has many times after that. He cheated on me and I still stayed. Stupid me!! He lies all the time. To himself. To his family his co workers his friends. I kno who I am. Always was. Always will b. He can’t face a lot of bs from his past. Nor stand up to his mother which is exactly what u speak of n these articles. She’s a pyscho bitch which that runs n her family thick! I can face my fears and move on. Have for the past 13 years. He’s been dealing w self pity and lies forever and trauma from his first ex w his children. He ran from the situation and didn’t deal w it. So guess who got to b the punching bag. And now the piece of crap 2nd ex. Cuz I can’t go up to his friends family co workers and tell them the truth. Who r they gonna believe?? At this point?? He’s always been an addict. If not drugs alcohol. I kno how addicts minds work. They live in their own lil world. They can beat the fuck out of u while under the influence and the next morning have to ask did they do something wrong. Plz. I think it’s the women that need the help and cope here. Not these bi polar lying addict men. That face a lot of shit. Really?!