Tag: sexual needs

Consensual sex with the elderly, a felony

Now elderly people have to be protected against consensual sex. And a comatose woman needs protection from sex with her husband.  A maximum age of consent for elderly, on top of the minimum age for 17 year old children?

 

Elder (in)justice: a critique of the criminalization of elder abuse.

Similarly, in the name of combating sexual abuse of older adults, some states have criminalized consensual sexual conduct that would otherwise be legally permissible. (72) For example, in the state of Washington, it is a crime for a disabled person age sixty or older to engage in consensual sexual activity with someone who provides that person with paid transportation. (73) In Vermont, it is a crime for anyone who works or volunteers at a caregiving facility or program to engage in sexual acts with any person whose ability to care for him or herself is impaired due to "infirmities of aging." (74)

With the effect that elders have no chance for sexual gratification. Be it because they are great pickup artist, be it for promises and money, or just for the good heartedness of the care giver.

Likewise, the Wisconsin Individual-at-Risk Restraining Order makes it possible to obtain a restraining order over someone–and hold them criminally liable for violating that restraining order–even where the "victim" neither lacks capacity nor objects to contact with the third party. (75) The fact that an older adult is competent is not a basis for dismissal of the petition. (76) Moreover, an order can be granted even if the respondent does not pose a risk to the older adult, but merely poses a threat to an investigation of alleged mistreatment, interferes with an offer of services to the older adult (regardless of whether the older adult wishes to obtain such services and regardless of whether those services have been found to be in the older adult’s best interest), or threatens to mistreat or mistreats an animal owned by or in service to the older adult. (77)

Even a caretaker of the same age group as the patient must not engage in any relationship. Or a husband, as seen in the example further down.

If people really were concerned with manipulation of elders (or minors), they could perfectly legalize the behavior after a notarized consent form, or a psychological counseling session.

But, these laws interfere in personal lives with no exception, no way out.

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Sex workers can give disabled people the chance to be touched in a non-medical way, perhaps for the first time in their lives

I really love the idea of sex workers giving disabled people the chance to be touched in a non-medical way, perhaps for the first time in their lives, to be held in a warm pair of arms and have their sexual dreams respected and lived out. 1

" Biological and Physiological needs – air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep" are the elementary need in Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs

Social policy helps the poor and needy to get air, food, drink shelter, warmth, and sleep. Not sex. Conservative religion and feminism conspire to deprive people of their need for sex and intimacy, by restricting prostitution, porn, and free sex.

The suffering of the 40 year old male virgin, the plight of the sex-less nerd, the imbalance of the socially inept man, and the plight of the ugly, dumb, poor, or disabled male don’t concern anyone. 

We are pleased to see this article in the main stream press organ "The Guardian" from April 10, 2013

The sex workers giving disabled people a chance to live out their dreams

A forthcoming Channel 4 documentary, Can Have Sex Will Have Sex, features the sex lives of four disabled people, one of whom loses his virginity to an escort who has been hired by his mother.

The programme has been labelled "controversial", but many mothers call the sex and disability helpline, which I run, worried that their disabled son is physically unable to masturbate and desperately needs an outlet. Hiring a sex worker is one option.

They can find responsible sex workers on the TLC-Trust website which was created in 2000 by myself and a disabled man, James Palmer, who was sad about being a virgin in his mid 40s. The hundred or so sex workers who have profiles on the site say they each see about eight disabled clients a month. One told me she recently saw a 38-year-old whose father had called after both parents had sought her out. It was their son’s birthday and he was a virgin. The father brought him down. She bought a birthday cake and a present.

We are focussing on the plight of sex-less males, because females rarely have problems getting sex, even if they are ugly or disabled.

As for disabled women, many tell me they would love to pay somebody who knows what they are doing, who helps them learn what their bodies are capable of enjoying, but most never try. They may be nervous that the man they are paying is not entirely professional and they may not think enough of themselves to treat themselves to the luxury of pleasure. That, I hope is changing. Most of the women I know who have paid have gone to female sex workers, and none of them have involved their mother in the process of making contact.

Females, or males, with mental disability have a very serious problem:: Any person who has sex with them is a *rapist, by feminist re-definition of the word and legal meaning of "rape". Thus nobody can legally have sex with them, ever.  

We already mentioned the suffering of the horny hormone driven teenager, whose sexuality is a legal mine field

We have touched on the problem of the pedophile (Jack McClellan) or child porn addict, whose victimless outlets are systematically blocked, utlimately leading to personal despair or criminal child abuse (Milton Diamond)